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LIFE AND AUTHOR UPDATES

Pray all is well with each and everyone of my suscribers.

Life has been great even with the ups and downs that come across our paths. I still manage to push on and move forward. Life is just too short for foolishness, drama and pettiness. Like the saying tells us: Choose your Battles and let go of the rest. Some things are just not worth the fight.

As I get older, different health situations arise but I don’t let it get me down. I do what I must to keep my health under control and my body healthy. Still, I don’t let it get me down, I push forward as always. I have too much to do in my one lifetime.  All is Well.

I am learning meditation and meeting some goals I have set for myself.

This past weekend I did a two day Christian Catholic silent/mediatation retreat at the Ignatius House Jesuit Retreat Center, event titled “Come Follow Me!” Exploring the Way of Discipleship

I had my own private room and bath which was cozy.

I didn’t have a problem being silent, at home I can be silent but always preoccupied doing something, projects, multi-tasking, just never sitting still. This was a different type of silence where you can practice stillness, you can clear your mind, empty your thoughts, Be Silent and Listen. To be in a room full of others and just Listen to the Silence and hear what is beyond that. I had an amazing experience. I met people from all denominations and variuos states and I ate well too.  I partaked in the Catholic Mass, prayer and Liturgy tradition and noticed how different it was from my Baptist tradition but one thing we shared was that We All Served The Same GOD. When I say I enjoyed myself believe me I did and will do it again. There was this one scuplture of Jesus in the main chapel that caught my attnetion every time I looked at it. Whomever scuplted this figure put some real time and percision into it. Every body detail was captured. Just awesome.  Everyone should explore the Silence.

I didn’t get a chance to walk down all the trails as I had planned but I did get to walk two.  The grounds were beautiful, it was many trees and wooded areas. I went to see the tall Tower first, it had a shrine of all the Catholic wording and signs, then I went to walk my first trail. After getting deep into the trail I was frightened somewhat but that came from watching too many scary movies. Every step I took I heard a noise and I would stop and look around. Saw nothing so contiuned, heard the sound again and again went on for a while and I stopped each time. I asked myself should I turn and go back the way I came, but not realizing how far I had walked I decided best to keep going forward. I wasn’t prepard for my walk as I had on open toe sandals with kitten heels (yes kitten heels). I thought the trail would be pretty much laid out and flat.

Nope, had to find a stick to balance myself. As I walked, my feet kept sliding forward in my sandals hurting in between my toes. The path was steep going downhill with red mud. Okay so all of a sudden I heard noises coming from above, I stopped like a deer in a headlight and looked up. Leaves starting falling from the trees all around me. I was thinking when i’m watching a movie and this happens, I talk to the screen telling that person “not to stop stupid, run keep going.” Here I was doing the exact same thing. Never know what you would do under the same circumstances, until you are actually in that situation.  Mind you it was Friday the 13th.

So,  I moved quickly down the hill trying to get back to the retreat center before dark. I didin’t find out until the next day what the sounds may have been. Tell ya in a sec.

Next morning I went on another trail and this time I had my camera. I will show you a few pictures of this trail. Couldn’t take too many, had to focus on where I was walking. It was better but after getting so far, there were some tress down that had blocked the trail but I could see the other side of the trail across the way. I found another stick and quickly went through some shubbery to get to the other side of the trail and a big spider web crossed my face, Eww. I kept going. Here are the pictures:

ST. IGNATIUS LOYOLA
THE TOWER
THE CHATAHOOCHE RIVER
ONE OF MANY SITTING AREAS
A BOOK I PURCHASED THERE WAS A LIBRARY FULL

This is a short video on my last trail.

https://www.amazon.com/photos/shared/DN1g89cUSUCkC7c9ATpliw.it0553qddLU0e1uG-DHtW5

After this trail, later that night one of my eyes were swollen (something got me) but all good now. That’s the risk of adventures.

THE WATERFALL
SISTER MARY MAGDALENE
WATERFALL

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh, before I forget.  While sitting in the main Chapel Invitation to prayer and silence where there is very large window without covering that faces the trees and the wooded area behind the chapel. As I sat there staring out, I saw leaves falling and I didn’t know why, but it seemed all too familiar. So I continued to watch and stare. What I saw were Squirrels high above in the trees jumping from branch to branch, which shook the leaves. I want to beleive it was just Squirrels that had me in a daze while on my trail.

Authors Update:

Now, as far as the last two book updates. I was really hoping to have them each published no later then this month. They each have exhauted me to no end, but I’ve come too far to quit. I have invetesde much. Kallisata is in her final proofing. The journal is being formatted and waiting on the cover. I will alert you now for both books it has been over 2 years now in hte making. I wanted each to be my best books. Again I ran inot editors who didn’t do well and I tired to do my best to make my own corrections and rewrites. As you know I am not a profeesinaol editor, so there again money was lost and wasted. I say this to inform you that when you read each book, please just look over any inconsistencies, erros whatever and just continue reading and hopefully the story itself will make it a good read for you on it’s own. These two were my goingout with a bang stories! And don’t forget those reviews, reviews, reviews as reviews mean much to us authors. I will notify you upon publishing.

Until next time, take care of yourselves, love one another and Godspeed.

just Deirdre.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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First of all subscribers before anyone points it out: I know that there is a discrepancy in the title Young and Reckless. Which this is the correct title. On the kindle and the paperback format it has the correct title but the formats did not link because I made the mistake of inputting the title on the paperback decdription as Young and the Reckless. Not a big deal but I would have preferred to correct. Once you publish, changing the title is forbidden. So, bottom line when you are on Amazon you will not find this particular title linked together as the others are.

Secondly, I had a subscriber point out that the links I embedded into the first and third images on the last email was difficult to see. I noticed it is grayed out and unless you hovered over it with the mouse it would not highlight. And I was also told that I should have just embeeded the link to my own vidoe Happy to show how excited I was getting these short stories completed. My excitement could not compare with Carlton and The jerk. I uploaed the videos again along with my own. This is just the beginning of my excitement, cannot wait until I have completed all the other pending novels. You may have saw on the earlier email images where I said to click here to see my excitement or maybe not.

https://youtu.be/-7aIf1YnbbU

https://youtu.be/nJ1PYN976Gw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_1S-VnqI8B8

Lastly, I am working hard on embedding the links to the new releases on my website. I am updating my new author page on Amazon. Also uploading all releases to my other subscribed site like Librarything.com, Smashword.com, Goodreads.com, AuthorsDen.com just to name a few. So much to do and not enough time to do it. I understand why some have assistants, especially if you are not a full-time author. I have uploaded temporary links here for those published so all you have to do is click the link to purchase. I don’t like the looks of these links but I’m on it Rose. Thanks to all you.


https://www.amazon.com/Sought-Out-Online-just-Deirdre/dp/1092881255/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=just+deirdre&qid=1557103275&s=books&sr=1-1

https://www.amazon.com/Samson-Taylor-Another-Different-Vacations/dp/1092882499/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=just+deirdre&qid=1557103377&s=books&sr=1-2

https://www.amazon.com/Derek-Camella-Homegirl-Misled-Vacations/dp/1092883827/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=just+deirdre&qid=1557103377&s=books&sr=1-3

https://www.amazon.com/Young-Reckless-Faces-Sorted-Vacations/dp/1092881883/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=just+deirdre&qid=1557103377&s=books&sr=1-4

https://www.amazon.com/Clyde-Ginger-Enough-Sorted-Vacations/dp/1092882928/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=just+deirdre&qid=1557103377&s=books&sr=1-5

NEW YEAR NEW STORIES

Look what I received in the mail today. Proof copies of the latest short stories. I have one more short story Pest of a Bug, it’s separate from these shown and one novel Something Inside scheduled for release in the next few days. Will be available for your ordering by first of week. Look for them on Amazon or another retailer. I will post the links once I have them for each book. I made a few changes to some covers. I am so excited to finally publish these stories. As I know some of you have been waiting.

Well the wait is over. Wait no more! I hope you enjoy these stories as much as I did writing them.

Kallista and The Journal are still in the review/editing process. Look out for these two stupendous stories around July/August 2019. Remember this will be just Deirdre’s final works. I look forward to all reviews and feedback on each story. That’s all I have. Short and sweet. Will keep all of you updated.

Thank you for your support and patience.

just Deirdre.

Updates / Milestone

Hello everyone!

Pray all is well. It has been some months since I spoke with you. Just a quick update. I wanted to share my birthday. Little late but it’s alright.

I have been very busy with my regular work schedule, but on better note have been busy writing as well. The pages and the storylines are coming together. I am so far pleased, and I hope once published you will be too.

I am working on completing my short stories that will be all apart of one book, a variety of stories. One fantasy adult novel, one suspense/fantasy for all ages, and one general fiction novel. All of the works and release date to be announced later down the road. My goal is to have all published by the end of 2018. I have decided that this will be the last of my writing.  Writing is not an easy task, I have the dedication but feel the desire is gone.  I have too many things on my plate and not enough time in the day. Something or someone will be neglected.

My stories all stem from something that I have dreamed up or something that I am familiar with in one way or another. I know that my thought process and storylines are weird at times, there also odd to me. But, those are my stories, and if I chose to write anything else, I would try too hard to write as if I were someone else, it would not be me, so let’s keep it real and write my ideas. I will be using the author name just Deirdre., as I no longer need the pseudonym PetiteBreaux.

April was a great month, also my “55” birthday!  I am now part of the senior citizen club, I was excited to be able to receive the perks and discounts afforded to senior citizens but it was making it to another milestone. To be alive and healthy and enjoy some of the discounts. I am just so happy and Blessed to be able to wake every day in good health. Life is good! I pray for everyone to keep on living and to enjoy each day that is given to you. Tomorrow is never promised. Be kind to one another and let go of the past.

i don’t like crowds, don’t do well with them but this year for my fifty-fifth birthday, my milestone, i wanted to do something. Wasn’t as if some would have celebrated but done it my way. I invited a handful of friends and some friends of others to join me at Dave and Busters for food, drink, conversation and just a good time. I reserved the Jack Daniels room, had ordered a few platters, unlimited beverages, and it was an open cash bar for those who wanted a stronger drink. Everyone could not make it but those that did, we had a wonderful time, everyone was on their best behavior, which made the night even better. The highlight of the night for me was that all my children were in attendance for my big day, much appreciated and much love to each of them. My VSO of course always by my side, cheering me on, love him for being a part of my life. Oh, in case you didn’t know what vso stands for, very significant other, this is the title he has given himself.   I thank my mother for giving me life, much love to her.  All my other guest, I genuinely appreciate the time they took out of their day to celebrate with us. Those who wanted to be there and could not, I understand and appreciate your birthday shout outs. This birthday was different then my others, it felt as if it were about me, my gifts were very thoughtful and loving. I have some pictures. One gift is missing from my daughter, she brought me a Tiffany Dollhouse, as she knows, I love building these houses to completion, I love working with my hands. These homes, take patience and it’s very relaxing.  A monetary gift from my son and family not shown but appreciated.  It was all about me and my day, and it felt terrific. I cannot mention it enough; it was beautiful! Even if it weren’t any gifts at all, I could not have asked for anything more, the atmosphere and the surrounding of loving people was enough.

Couple of videos my daughter youngest took.

Glynis Harris on Instagram: “Moms 55th bday @mommad50”

Glynis Harris on Instagram: “My gift to @mommad50 for her 55th bday”

A wood watch from my younger brother, different but lovely. Thank you

Julia Child cookbook from my daughter, something I have wanted since 2009. Very unexpected! All the birthday cards, the words, and expression of love were warmly appreciated. 

My gift cards, the Starbucks and Red Robin from two close and dear friends, thank you both very much. Fashinova gift card from my loving cousin, happy shopping.

Diffuser and candle from a lovely young lady, I call a friend. It’s Pink and has a very great fragrance–love it.

The pumps that I wanted, they look classy. From my VSO. Love it. I sure needed this replacement.

 

 

The question was asked about the Julia Child cookbook, was I going to cook or would the book stay in plastic. When I saw the movie, Julie and Julia, i wanted to cook everything in the book. I will tell ya this, I won’t be slaving around in the kitchen because we all know my cooking days are slim to none but I will cook a few recipes out of this book, now that I actually have it, I am motivated again. I will not let this gift go to waste. My VSO can share it with me. I guess you ask why the picture of the other cookbook. Well, I had been watching Tia Mowry’s cooking show in the past and tried some of her recipes because again they looked great and healthy, so when she came out with her cookbook, I purchased it. Now i have two professional cookbooks that I will start using.

That’s all for now, will keep you updated on the writing and publishing of the new books and their titles.

As we move into May, let’s continue to move forward, no looking back.

 

 

FAMILY TIES!!!!!

THE TIES THAT BIND US

Someone help me understand:

Scenario one:

How can anyone have a child and not do anything and everything within their means to take care of that child, support that child, provide for that child? It is our responsibility as a parent to do all those things for our children and more if needed, it’s no one else’s responsibility. There are at times when certain circumstances beyond one’s control when you are just not able to provide for your child or even have a child in your care. This is the only time when you should have to decide what is in the best interest of the child, to let someone else take care of the child, raise them on your behalf.

We can’t keep coming up with excuses as to why we cannot or just will not do our jobs as parents. It’s not the child’s fault that they are here, it is ours. We cannot always meet our parenting goals but the key is trying to do all that you can, at least you know and your child knows that you tried, you gave it your best and that’s what matters.

As a daughter, and a parent myself, I have not been the perfect parent and there are times when I know that I should have tried harder or done better, but I have always tried to give and do what’s best for my children. How could I not? I wanted them cared for but most of all safe and happy. I always wish that I could do more for my children no matter how old they may get, I still want to help them. I would give my last to help them because when they hurt I hurt and when I cannot it saddens me.

So, tell me how can anyone have a child and not want to provide for them, know them, be a part of their lives, watch them as they grow, this is a part of you, your blood and you should do all that you can to stay involved in their life. How can you have a child and not be there, how can you put it out of sight out of mind and go on with your life as if that child didn’t exist? Help me to understand this.

Scenario two:  

Myself raised as an only child, never knew what it was like to have arguments or disagreements with a sibling. I need someone to explain to me why siblings argue and stop speaking with another. Why can’t siblings agree to disagree and move on? Why can’t they just squash the pettiness, discuss their issues with the other and move on with life? Why stop speaking to one another for days weeks months at a time when the issue could be resolved and you continue to interact and enjoy life with one another as siblings should?

There are always three sides to every story, your side, their side and the truth. Of course, no one will ever think they are wrong, each will believe they are right but after a while what does it matter, apologize be the bigger person talk to one another clear the air and make it right. You were raised (some) in the same household, (some) with the same parent/parents,  it’s not like you were in two different environments. You have spent plenty of time together, you shared a room and you love one another.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGEpC8k2jEw

Life is too short to abandon one another and god forbid that something happened to either of you before you made things right again, you will regret it for the rest of your life that you didn’t get the chance to make amends. And, this is not just for siblings but anyone you care about and love, mother, grandparent, etc…

There are those that you just don’t give a damn about that don’t count in your life. So, if you fall out with that person it doesn’t really matter if you ever speak to them again. But for those that you care about it should mean MORE to make things right.  I am just saying and it’s just my opinion but I need someone to explain how siblings should interact with one another? These are crazy times we live in, let’s not make it worst or more stressful.

This maybe one of my last posts before putting away the pen. I will keep you updated on the latest books to be published end of year beginning of next year.

Let’s keep the flood victims in our prayers.

Until next time, be good to one another, love one another.

 

 

Hoy en mi vida!

For those of you who are not subscribed to my newsletter, this is what you missed.

It’s been a while since I last talked to you. After all the obstacles that have come in my path, I have not given up. My series of short stories are coming along very well, and I am sticking to it. Also, have a novel that I am working on, should be completed with all books by the end of the year.  Will not publish any of them right away. My goal is to publish with a traditional publisher,  so this may take a while. If it doesn’t happen within six months after books are completed, I will go the self-publishing route.

I would like to have at least one book published professionally.

Writing and having a creative mind is lots of work, effort, time and patience. I have set myself a daily writing goal of 1600 words if possible but no less than 500 words.

It’s either getting up an hour early before work to write or soon as I arrive home from work. Trust me 3:30 A.M. is best, my brain is fresh and ready to go. Sometimes, I may miss a day of writing, so I make it up the next time. But, must stick with it, to meet my goals.

Movies, Television and Reading Etc.

So, as you all know, I am a big movie and T.V. buff.
GAME OF THRONES is back, Winter is Here, very excited about this, it has been a long wait. Ghost is out of Jail, but Charlie is dead, head bashed the F**K in with a dumbell!  R.I.P.Charlie Murphy.

For all you Netflix fans, Chewing Gum(this is so funny stupid), Bloodline, Wentworth (awww that big bitch the Governor has nine lives) , Friends From College to name a few are outstanding features.
Amazon Prime still has me hooked almost more than Netflix. If you have Prime, check out these shows (Sneaky Pete, Mad Dog, Trapped, Transparent). You will get hooked.
HBO take a watch at Ballers, Big Little Lies (excellent novel turned series by author Liane Moriarty), Insecure featuring Issa Rae (Hilarious)

Have not been to the big screen much since I have the Firestick. Last week went to see Wonder Woman, wasn’t impressed, it was fair. My take on it was that it did not have enough action and this new Wonder Woman was not sexy enough in the outfit, nothing like Linda Carter.

Just my Siskel and Ebert opinion.  

Okay, moving on, enough about movies and TV because I have just too many to list.

Reached my book reading goal for this year early, I lowered the bar to a goal of 15 books unlike last year 50, and I read 51.
Now, I can just take my time and read when time allows around my schedule. Reading short stories, fantasy, sci-fi, YA and fiction novels.
Just reading it all, variety is good. It helps me as an author to brush up on my writing and creative skills.

Have not vacationed at all this year thus far and it has been difficult, just working every day and writing. Normally I would have taken one trip by now, but this August we do have a beach vacation planned. Can’t wait for that break and much-needed relaxation and fun. Feel that Ocean breeze, the sand between my toes and that awful hot sun burning down on my skin. It’s all worth it!

I forgot to mention that I had a new grand baby her name is Ella. Isn’t she lovely!  And she thick.

Also, we have my grand-dog HoneyBun(HB). She THOT trainging. Lol

 

Food for thought, something to think about:

Remember no one is perfect, not even those higher up. Choose your idols wisely or better yet, idolize no one. Those at the top can quickly fall back down to the bottom. Worship no man, woman or child, but GOD.

Sometimes you may cross paths with another and think this person is smart, intelligent and got their shit together and this may be true, and on the other side, can just be an outward appearance.  Just because someone may have more than you, don’t ever make them better that you.

All of us, everyone has flaws, faults, and weakness, so let no one make you feel that they are superior to you. Build your own self-esteem and motivation. Sure, there may be certain things you can learn from another, but don’t let it or that person be something or someone you cling to for growth. Be you, Do you. You have an individual quality within you that make you who you are, that makes you unique.

Until next time, take care.

WHAT WORRY MAY DO TO YOU

Hey, all! It’s been some time since we last chatted, but I hope all is well with everyone. This blog will be a bit lengthy, so please bear with me.

What worrying too much can do to you?

How many of us are worriers? How many are not aware you are a worrier?

For a long time, I was a worrier even to the point that it affected my health in ways such as constant stomach problems, always feeling nauseated, facial breakouts, weight loss, and hair loss. This all started when I became a victim of abuse and domestic violence.  I suspect it was the fear and not knowing what’s to come next. How do I protect myself, my children, finances?  How do I continue to work, maintain some shelter, and ensure my survival? This was only the beginning of my worrying, and it just progressed over the years as the situations worsened.

Finally, after a visit to my doctor who explained that my hair loss, and everything else that was going on with me, was due to the stress and anxiety.  The doctor advised speaking with a counselor, someone who was non-judgmental and unfamiliar to me. My doctor told me that I was an “inner” worrier which was not good and would continue to jeopardize my health.  After a few counseling sessions, I realized that this was the best thing that I could ever have done for myself. Trust me when I say, you do NOT want to hold on to past negative experiences.  It will eat you alive and tear away at your being.  You do your best try to protect those close to you but what about protecting yourself? Anyhow, after counseling I began to worry less and was able to focus more on family and living. I have been trying to get this meditation thing down, breathing exercise and praying more to keep those nasty boogers called stress and worry out of my life.  And I have to say, it feels good to feel good.

As I got better, my hair grew back, I was able to maintain, my stomach problems went away and my face cleared up.  Some people may think speaking with counselor/psychotherapist means you must have been crazy or something, but you don’t and you’re not.  It is not a sign of weakness but strength. Sometimes you just need to talk, get “it” off your chest, open up about things kept quiet.  It would surprise you how much better you’ll feel.  There’s something enlightening about unloading all the suppressed anger, the sadness, the hurt or whatever your non-physical issues may be.

Many years have gone by since I was in a bad place, but I am definitely in a better place, feeling better about myself and not worrying as much, so I think.

Sometimes I believe that I am no longer a worrier because I stay pretty much happy these days and try to avoid all the drama that surrounds me barring the drama I watch on television. But, there are also times when I believe that worry is still lying just beneath the surface when fighting off to stress from family issues, relationship issues (feeling caught in the middle or being pulled from each end) or just concerns of the heart. Heartbreaking at times.

Other things that worry me from time to time is my writing – will I get my stories completed, will it read good, will I get my books edited and published.  Writing can get financially exhausting when you’re going at it alone. The difference between some self-publishing authors and celebrities is that when a star decides to write a book or are approached to write a book, literary agents and publishing companies seek them out and give them all the necessary people and tools to make it happen. I won’t let this stop me, and I will continue writing and trying to perfect my skill until I get tired of writing and throw in the towel, wave the white flag or scream uncle. In the meantime, everything is everything and I am hopeful that all else will fall into place.   I ask the question. How does one just turn off the worry button?

Another source of discontentment is that I have two other grandchildren that I don’t get to see, not by choice, and they are growing up without me.  This, as well as, family issues, family division, stressful work environment and other nonsense that is out of my control also try to contribute.  But I actively look for different ways to manage.  For the more personal things, I try to separate myself from the issues, but at the same time, I try not to come across as uncaring although it may seem that way to some.  As much as I know how worrying jeopardizes my health mentally, emotionally and physically, this is something I prefer not to go through anymore.  I was recently diagnosed with other health issues to include osteoarthritis and hyperthyroidism.  Both of them just suddenly popped up out of nowhere when I previously had no symptoms or signs.  But, as much as I dislike the idea of having these condition, it is good that they are under control now and I am coping with them.

I have realized, and I hope that everyone can understand, I cannot solve everyone’s problems.  I can only help where possible and give my opinion when asked.  Everyone is responsible for their own lives.  It’s hard enough keeping up with everything going on my own life, let alone trying to direct someone else’s life.  This additional stress and worry are not worth the price of my health.  I have to take care of me which means I must relax, release and remain happy.  Once I am happy, then I can share happiness.  But the opposite is true also.

I don’t know what you may worry about, but if you find yourself worrying to the point that it’s taking a toll on your life, your relationships, or even worse, your health, you owe it to yourself stop the insanity and try to find a solution that works for you to reduce your worrying.  Otherwise, it will be your health that is impacted when the issue was not yours, to begin with.  We have to make a change before it affects our health or, even worse, sends us to an early grave.  Somethings we can impact.  Something we can’t impact.  In measured doses, we should limit our concerns and worries to the things we can impact.  And furthermore, we must avoid making the small issue into extra-large issues if/when it’s not necessary and doesn’t move us closer to a good place.

I started reading “How To Stop Worrying and Start Living” By Dale Carnegie for the second time because sometimes you need just that little extra help or push.

Let me just give you a few paragraphs, paraphrasing, and quotes from the book that has given me food for thought.

Professor William James, the father of applied psychology had a formula for stress, and that same idea was expressed by Lin Yutang, a Chinese philosopher who said, “True peace of mind comes from accepting the worst.”

Rule 2, according to Willis H. Carrier, is if you have a worrying problem, you can address them by applying this magic formula found in doing these three things:

  1. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”
  2. Prepare to accept it if you have to.
  3. Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.

Dr. O. F. Gober states, “Fear causes worry. Worry makes you tense and nervous and affects the nerves of your stomach and actually changes the gastric juices of your stomach from normal to abnormal and often leads to stomach ulcers.”

Dr. Joseph F. Montague says, “You do net get stomach ulcers from what you eat . You get stomach ulcers from what is eating you.”

Dr. Harold C. Habein of the Mayo Clinic says: Can any man possibly be a success who is paying for business advancement with stomach ulcers and heart trouble? What shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world-and loses his health? Even if he owned the whole world, he could sleep only in one bed at a time and only eat three meals a day. Even a new employee can do that-and probably sleep more soundly and enjoy his food more than a high-powered executive. Frankly, I would rather be a carefree person with no responsibility than wreck my health at forty-five by trying to run a company.

Mayo brothers said, “nervous troubles” are caused by emotions of futility, frustration, anxiety, worry, fear, defeat, despair.

Plato stated that “the greatest mistake physicians make is that they attempt to cure the body without attempting to cure the mind; yet the mind and body are one and should not be treated separately!

Worry can put you into a wheelchair with rheumatism and arthritis says Dr. Russell L. Cecil a world recognized authority on arthritis. There are four commonest conditions that bring on arthritis:

  1. Marital shipwreck
  2. Financial disaster and grief
  3. Loneliness and worry
  4. Long-cherished resentments

Worry can cause tooth decay, Dr. Wiiliam I. L. McGonigle ADA that, “unpleasant emotions such as those caused by worry, fear, nagging…may upset the body’s calcium balance and cause tooth decay. It can also cause acute overactive thyroid problems. The thyroid gland, that gland that regulates the body, has been thrown out of kilter. It speeds up the heart-the whole body is roaring away at full blast; like a furnace with all of its drafts wide open. And if this isn’t checked, by operation or treatment, the victim, may die, may “burn himself out.”

Who would have known such a thing about tooth decay? Not me.

Dr. Israel Bram said to ask yourself, “What emotional disturbance brought on this condition?” if you don’t stop worrying, you can bring on other complications: heart trouble, stomach ulcers, or diabetes. “All these disease, “are cousins, first cousins.”

Do you love life? Do you want to live long and enjoy good health? Here is how you can do it. “Those who keep the peace of their inner selves in the midst of the tumult of the modern city are immune from nervous disease.” According to Dr. Alexis Carrel

Dr. Carrell also said, “He does believe that a cheerful mental attitude helps the body fight disease, thanks to these challenging, fighting words:  Face the facts: Quit worrying; then do something about it!’”

“Those who do not know how to fight worry die young” -Dr. Alexis Carrel

Can you do this? Can you keep the peace of your inner self in the midst of the tumult of a modern city? The answer is “yes.” Most of us are stronger than we realize.

Of course, I could go on but, you will just have to read the book for yourself.

What I am writing:

I am currently writing a few short stories, no release dates now but coming soon.

What I am watching:

“13 R3asons Why” (Netflix) everyone should watch, parents, teachers, teens and counselors

“The Handmaids Tale” (Netflix)

“Harlot” (Hulu)

My Favorite Regular Series: Rebel, The Blacklist, Blacklist Redemption, Scandal, Grey’s Anatomy, Fargo, Designated Survivor, Rogue, Blackish, Modern Family, Empire, PTL, Better Call Saul, Jane The Virgin, Gotham, Into The Badlands, Reign, Quantico, Outsiders, Underground, Greenleaf and caught up on season one of Imposters (remember I am open to all genres of movies)

My 2017 Reading Challenge on Goodreads:

I am reading book 13 out of my 2017 reading goal, 15. Last year my goal was 50 books and I read 51. This year I set the bar lower,  because I am a very busy woman, although I am sure I will surpass my goals.

On Another Note:

We shouldn’t worry about tomorrow or what it will bring and just make the most of today.  We should, however, give some attention to saving for our retirement years.  And if you are not investing in your future, it’s not too late to start today.   You can start putting aside $5, 10, 20, 25.00 per week, per month whatever you can afford.   You can even consider investing in a 401k, certificate of deposit (CD),  savings account, or stocks/bond.  If all else fails, but only as a last resort, put some funds away in a piggy bank, shoe box, hole in the wall, or bury it in your yard.  Just kidding on those last suggestions.  But the point is, start saving officially somewhere.  Once you make the commitment, you won’t even think about it and once one that’s out of site out of mind and build your nest egg. If you don’t, who will?

I hope you don’t plan to work your entire life, and I am sure that you wouldn’t want to.  At some point, you will want to stop working and start doing something you like – like seeing the world, starting a new business, spending more time with the grandkids, pursue a new hobby, remodel your home, drive a nice car, etc.  It’s up to you to make this sacrifice for you.  Truth be told, you can’t depend on another to take care of you when you get old – nothing is guaranteed.  Just something to think about and look into, don’t put off tomorrow what you can do today.

You want to feel and look like this –

 

not like this – 

 

Until next time, peace, love, respect, and unity

“It’s Funny How People Need You Until They Don’t”

“HE’S NOT MY PRESIDENT!”

Hey, guys! How is everyone doing? Another week of sharing what’s in my heart.

I was watching the series “The Designated Survivor” with Keifer Sutherland (President Tom Kirkman) my Jack Bow-Wow. He’s not my President when I heard those words, I immediately thought of our current president. In this TV series, this man was sworn in as president because he was the designated survivor, the current President and entire staff had been killed in a terrorist attack.

He was not elected nor voted into this Presidency. Tom Kirkman, didn’t ask for the position of President and didn’t want it. He didn’t have any knowledge of running a nation. Never in the armed forces. No congressional background what so ever and Congress, the governors, and the people were so disrespectful towards him, would not address him as Mr. President,  but as Mr. Kirkman, just all kinds of rudeness. This man is a good and honest family man, trying to do what’s right by the people and for the people, but no one wanted to work with him. Every which way he turned he hit a brick wall. Eventually, he gained the respect and trust of a few aids. Not sure how this story will unfold. But this is just for TV.

Mr. Trump wasn’t a designated survivor, and this is no TV series. He didn’t have the background that many sought in a President-elect. I suspect that the people were seeking something different, someone, that would be for the people, for our country. You get so tired of hearing all the political speeches, the promises for our nation, blah blah blah…presidential choices were slim to none, but the people voted.

I see and hear these words “He’s Not My President” so often about the situation with our new president, President Donald Trump.  

Donald Trump!  People have got all upset depressed, ranting and raving about this man because of what they see of him on television or what they have heard about him in the media.  I do not know Trump.  I do know his words and tweets have a tendency to get a lot of people upset.  One reason why I don’t read his tweets or listen to his speeches.  I believe what he does and what he says are for one purpose – to rattle everyone’s cage.  They should ban him from all social media.

This congressional party unlike no other that I have saw, is a joke, a real circus act Among the Powerful. A bunch of clowns, jumping through hoops and juggling etc…

But I cannot, and will not, let this person get me upset; there is not a damn thing I can do about what he says or does as our new president EXCEPT pray for the best.  I understand he may not have been who we wanted in the white house, but what’s done is done.  Let’s move on, make the best of it and just focus our energies on those things which are within our control.  Otherwise, you’re just wasting your time.

But let me be clear, I may not like President Trump, and I can’t say that I don’t like the man,  don’t know him, but if he asked me to come work for him in the White House, Hell Yeah I would jump at the opportunity. Would look at as a once in a lifetime opportunity that may give me the opportunity to get to know the person within the President.   Honestly, I’ve never known of or heard of any past or present President until they became the President of the United States. Outside of that, I  wouldn’t be able to distinguish him from a can of paint.  It seems that they have just said the things they feel the American people want to hear to get votes.  We don’t know who will keep their word and do what is necessary to make the country a better place.

It’s almost the same as meeting someone new and getting into a relationship; we honestly do not know this person.  I had never heard of President Obama until he ran for office, but I had known about President Trump from his TV show “The Apprentice” and his hotels, but still I did not know this man. I don’t believe he is a political person, nor has he ever been a member of the armed forces but he is a business man with plenty of nothing to say. I don’t watch politics, and I try not to listen to it either. Not a fan.

It’s like starting a new job; they make it sound so wonderful that you can’t resist the offer and so you accept the employment.  Later you realize the job is nothing like they described it and not only do you not like the job, you find out you don’t like the manager either.  Now you’re at a job that you don’t like, working for someone you like even less, but you have to continue going to work because you need the income to survive, until you can find another job that you HOPE is better.  But you deal with it the best you can, especially when no one is there to offer financial help or pay your bills.

I said that to say this, it is the same viewpoint we should have for our current President.  We have to deal with the hand that’s  given to us; he is our President (for now).  Thank God for term limits in this case.  May not like him, or what he does, or what he says, but remember he is only a man.  He is not God, and he is not a god.  Only God has the power to change things and people and situations, so we should pray for our new President as we prayed for our old President and Kept It Moving.

Not saying we give him a chance; some may end up liking him or not, but he were elected. Or, we can just let this Presidency run it’s course and see how it all unfolds. You know those sayings, what goes on in the dark, will eventually come out in the light. Give em enough rope and they will hang themselves.

It is good and bad in all of us; he is just another one. It’s hard to believe anyone in politics. It’s not always WYSIWYG there are plenty out here in sheep’s clothing. We cannot let one bad apple spoil it for everyone although sometimes there are more than one.  Everyone can’t handle being in authority, but every person new to a job should be given a full and fair chance to either shine or to fall flat on their ass.  But, we the people, have to hold these elected officials accountable to do what is right for the majority.  Being president of the United States comes with a lot of power.  The power to do great things, but on the other hand, the power to destroy great things.

Just as Diddy stated, not everyone can handle power which could lead to a lot Bitchassness going on.  But I’m paraphrasing.

In conclusion, I try hard to take life one day at a time and pray for the best outcome. I cannot and will not sit around worrying about what our president is or is not doing – that is out of my control.  I don’t claim to like political stuff and have never really understood politics.  In my humble opinion government has a tendency to look out for the government which is why we should look out for one another.  I just pray that the majority of governmental decisions are made for the people and not for the government. Stayed prayed up, it’s all we have.

A nation as great as ours has to have a strong government to ensure our high standards are, and continue to be upheld.  There is so much going on around us in the world today; it is as if the bible’s predictions of the end are starting to come true.  Everywhere you turn, there’s crime, senseless killings, homelessness, and poverty. But, my question to each of you is so how do we fix it?

He is your President!

I’ve always pondered this question, is the president actually for the people or themselves?

Again, there are just my feelings and opinions. Be nice; I know some of you will want to lash out.

Freedom of speech is AWESOME!

Share your thoughts and comments.

ALL LIVES MATTER!

Hey, all! I am back for another week to share with you what’s in my heart.

Although, I am a Black American of African descent. Despite my ancestor origins, I was born and raised in America.  I am no less American than any other race that was born and raised in America.  And I am no more American than those from other cultures who have chosen, against enormous odds and at incredible costs, to make our great nation the place they call home.

I believe that all lives matter – all races, creeds religions, and colors. We all bleed the same color blood and, whether American or some other nationality, we have to live with one another on the inhabitable planet I know of.  Becoming united as a human race should be everyone’s goal because, let’s face it, no one is born a racist, a bigot, a feminist, etc.   This division that we may sow, cultivated via our upbringing and feed by indifference and the company we decide to keep, is as devastating and silently traumatic to the bearer as it is the recipient of such nonsense.

Surely we can “act” like it doesn’t matter, but it is acting nonetheless which is sometimes so well played and well versed, even the actor has himself or herself fooled into believing that it doesn’t matter.  As Americans, we cannot afford “take the low road” lest we self-propel ourselves into the likes of a third world country.   Yes, America is the land of the free and opportunity, but our laws, our government and our justice system is all unjust, bias, and unfair.

My hope is that we, as Black Americans / African Americans, make a greater effort to come together to help one another instead of being jealous of one another or tear each other down rather than building each other up.  Yeah, we bitch and moan when someone of another race shoots one of our kids, but if you look closely, it is we who kill the most Black Americans / Africa Americans.

Yes, I am pissed at educational and economic inequality which leads to fewer opportunities which lead to despair and lost hope.  Then, we have the audacity to have kids and, by example, put them on the same course in life.  But change starts with us – now – in America. We have to start holding ourselves accountable, but more so, we have to start holding each other accountable to doing what’s right instead of doing what’s easy.  We are large in numbers, so if we do this, we may be able to reset the racial tone for our entire nation.  Just imagine.

Sometimes I hear people talk about coming from Africa and how we were brought over here on slave ships.  All that was back before my time.  I didn’t come over here on any ship.  As a matter of fact, there are some of Africans that do not care for the Black American cultures.  Sure, we may have the complexions and hair textures born of Africans, but those born in Africa and us born in the United States are two different cultures.  But I would no more be able to go to Africa and fit in with my traditional Black American ways than Africans could easily fit in America.  But I still consider Africans as my sister and brothers because this is where both our roots began.

Watching the Mandela story, even while in prison he requested that all Africans and colored were treated as that of the white prisoners. Also, when he gave his speech, he sought equality for all Africans, Colored, Indians and Whites. Therefore, we are of the separate culture. Don’t forget there are those who consider themselves white Africans, maybe not born of African descent but born in Africa. We have others that are the same shades of brown complexions, same hair textures, but of different cultures, to name a few: Britain, and London, and the UK, and Jamaica, and Haiti, and Spain and so on. Still, as an American, you could not go to any of these countries and expect to live in your traditional American ways.  Hey, I am just saying.

 

 

Which box do you check? We all mixed up in here one way or another.

 

And, by the way, I noticed while Mandela was in prison their daily prison routine was sitting outside chipping away at white rocks, why was this?

Can someone answer this question for me? 

 

 

 

And speaking of slaves, I cannot image what the slaves had to endure and suffer through to survive.  But will the struggle and the fight ever end?  It seems like we are still fighting that same many of the same things as we did 50+ years ago – racism, hatred, and injustice.  But we must continue to hold on to our hopes and dreams that, one day, all the fighting will finally make a difference. I know it’s sickening to hear almost every time you turn on the TV that another black life was taken or the unfairness of the justice system.  But the answer is NOT realized by going out in anger, hurting others, rioting or burn down our neighborhoods. Just another way of how we destroy ourselves.  Was this the ultimate plan by the powers that be?

We have to change our way, we have to change our attitudes, and we have to do the unexpected.  I can talk about this, but I have no plans to go out and protest for fear of the uncertain.  Things have a tendency to get escalated unnecessarily, and peaceful quickly turns to unpeaceful.  Dr. Martin Luther King promoted peaceful protests of non-violence so that our voice and our issue are heard.  Something we should all strive for as we collectively make our thoughts known.  It is not just a “black thang,” because many other races face the same or worse struggles with homelessness, poverty, deplorable living conditions, lack of clean water, adequate clothing, unemployment, etc.

If we take the time and make an effort, to look beyond skin color and really get to know one another, we just may find that we have more in common than you know.  Isn’t this the same thing that Maya Angelou quoted?

I do not see skin color.  However, I do see people.  And if another person who doesn’t know me don’t like me, I DON’T CARE – they just don’t know me.

Again, there are just my feelings and opinions. Freedom of speech is AWESOME!

Until next week when I speak of more what’s in my heart.

Be safe and have an enjoyable weekend.

Share your thoughts and comments but play nice.

 

 

SETBACKS, HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT?

Hey y’all. I know most of my blogging hasn’t had much to do with writing or books, but sometimes, I feel it’s important also to share what is in my heart. Hope that is okay with ALL of my subscribers 🙂

This week I registered online with http://www.dailyom.com to get advice on improving my health, fitness, and meditation. Ironically, I ran across this.

If you remember last week’s blog, I focused on accepting compliments. Anyhow, moving right along.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Although it wasn’t supposed to be a part of this week’s write-up, I must share a recent experience I had.
Monday was a sad day guys; I took my laptop to the Geek Squad (Best Buy) for servicing and was assured it would not affect any saved document files. After a couple of days, I opened the software I primarily use for all my writing only to find that my files were no longer available. It was so disheartening. I spent hours searching my laptop, looking for every file, every document, and every source to find my files, but no luck. After reaching my frustration maximum, it was time to take the laptop back to the Geek Squad to see if they could locate the files that were there before they did the “repairs.” The person at the customer’s service desk was very nice and patient and searched my laptop thoroughly, but to no avail. None of my files were found. I mean nothing – no previous versions… no restore points… NOTHING. It was clear by the look on my face how sad and devastated I was. The service rep was as very empathetic to my situation, but there was nothing else that he or I could do at this point – my files were gone. My five short stories in the making – GONE. And my novel-in-the-making – GONE. 
It was all I could do to pick up my laptop, hold it close to my chest with my arms wrapped around it, said thank you, turned and walked away slowly with my head held down. I was in deep thought, I was sad, my lips and chin trembled, and my eyes were starting to water although no tears fell. I said to myself I wouldn’t cry, but I also told myself that I just wouldn’t write anymore. After such a horrible loss, I convinced myself that 1) I don’t have it in me to begin all over again, and 2) I don’t have any backups or notes from the files I had lost. That was the purpose of the application I was using – to document and keep track of everything – my every thought and my every idea.
I got in my car, eyes welling up but still, no tears actually flowing, I drove home in a trance. My heart beating fast and in pain. Walking in the house numb and in disbelief, I began wondering and wishing, maybe the files are still in there somewhere. I walked inside just wanted to scream or hit something really hard – but I didn’t. Then I thought about getting in the shower, turn on the water and slide down the shower wall to the shower floor as the water runs down all over my body while I scream and cry my eyes out – you know, just like you see on TV. It always seems to make the ones on TV feel better. But, I just could not cry today for some reason; the tears simply would not come.
Accepting my reality, I took some deep breaths, put my big girl drawers back on and vowed I would just rewrite all my stories again; I will start over. After the initial shock had subsided, I adjusted, adapted and decided to move on. I remembered that this was just another one of life’s setbacks – another obstacle and another hurdle. I am stronger than this. I will suck it up and move on, but I will not forget how disheartening it all is. And I will be writing a letter to Best Buy Corporate office about how they fell incredibly short of living up to the service that they claim.

Found out that had to write my complaint on their website forum, which I did. No satisfactory there. I was told that if I were to read #’s 11/12 on the service order, I would have read that its the customer’s responsibility to back up all data and they are not liable for any loss of data. Well, part of this could be my blame for not reading the order, as I am always asking my children, did you read what it said first?
But I was told by the technician and assured that this was not needed because the repairs that would take place would not have anything to do with my files. When the service order was handed to me, the tech did not point out any language of the service order, he just folded up my copy and put in a sleeve and gave it to me. So, that is that.

I will look into purchasing a new laptop when finances are in order, but the good news is that I am writing again, starting over from scratch. I can say, it’s all behind me now.

Oh, on a funny note, if you read my book The Whispering of My Heart, This is what Chloe has been up to. She is reading now. Hahhahhhhh!!!!!!

 

I will share some other important thoughts and issues that have been on my mind with you next week. Until then have a safe and enjoyable weekend.

 

I want to leave you with this one thought: Isn’t it funny how people need you until they don’t.