Month: August 2017

THE TIES THAT BIND US

Someone help me understand:

Scenario one:

How can anyone have a child and not do anything and everything within their means to take care of that child, support that child, provide for that child? It is our responsibility as a parent to do all those things for our children and more if needed, it’s no one else’s responsibility. There are at times when certain circumstances beyond one’s control when you are just not able to provide for your child or even have a child in your care. This is the only time when you should have to decide what is in the best interest of the child, to let someone else take care of the child, raise them on your behalf.

We can’t keep coming up with excuses as to why we cannot or just will not do our jobs as parents. It’s not the child’s fault that they are here, it is ours. We cannot always meet our parenting goals but the key is trying to do all that you can, at least you know and your child knows that you tried, you gave it your best and that’s what matters.

As a daughter, and a parent myself, I have not been the perfect parent and there are times when I know that I should have tried harder or done better, but I have always tried to give and do what’s best for my children. How could I not? I wanted them cared for but most of all safe and happy. I always wish that I could do more for my children no matter how old they may get, I still want to help them. I would give my last to help them because when they hurt I hurt and when I cannot it saddens me.

So, tell me how can anyone have a child and not want to provide for them, know them, be a part of their lives, watch them as they grow, this is a part of you, your blood and you should do all that you can to stay involved in their life. How can you have a child and not be there, how can you put it out of sight out of mind and go on with your life as if that child didn’t exist? Help me to understand this.

Scenario two:  

Myself raised as an only child, never knew what it was like to have arguments or disagreements with a sibling. I need someone to explain to me why siblings argue and stop speaking with another. Why can’t siblings agree to disagree and move on? Why can’t they just squash the pettiness, discuss their issues with the other and move on with life? Why stop speaking to one another for days weeks months at a time when the issue could be resolved and you continue to interact and enjoy life with one another as siblings should?

There are always three sides to every story, your side, their side and the truth. Of course, no one will ever think they are wrong, each will believe they are right but after a while what does it matter, apologize be the bigger person talk to one another clear the air and make it right. You were raised (some) in the same household, (some) with the same parent/parents,  it’s not like you were in two different environments. You have spent plenty of time together, you shared a room and you love one another.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGEpC8k2jEw

Life is too short to abandon one another and god forbid that something happened to either of you before you made things right again, you will regret it for the rest of your life that you didn’t get the chance to make amends. And, this is not just for siblings but anyone you care about and love, mother, grandparent, etc…

There are those that you just don’t give a damn about that don’t count in your life. So, if you fall out with that person it doesn’t really matter if you ever speak to them again. But for those that you care about it should mean MORE to make things right.  I am just saying and it’s just my opinion but I need someone to explain how siblings should interact with one another? These are crazy times we live in, let’s not make it worst or more stressful.

This maybe one of my last posts before putting away the pen. I will keep you updated on the latest books to be published end of year beginning of next year.

Let’s keep the flood victims in our prayers.

Until next time, be good to one another, love one another.